Its that time of the year when love is on just about everyone's mind. Love is as critical for your mind and body as oxygen. The more connected you are, the healthier you will be both physically and emotionally. It is also true that the less love you have, the more depression you are likely to experience in your life. Love is probably the best antidepressant there is because one of the most common sources of depression is feeling unloved. But one problem that I bet each one of us has experienced at least once in our life is thinking its love when it turns out to be infatuation. It's easy for others to tell whether you are in love or just infatuated. But, it can be hard for you to tell the difference, when you're infatuated. You can't tell the difference because when you're infatuated, you're "crazy in love," you've lost your senses. You've lost your mind. Infatuation is a delightful form of madness. It's like a short term mental illness, where you lose your ability to reason. Infatuation is that first stage of mad attraction whereby all the hormones are flowing and things feel so right. Infatuation lasts, on average, six months to a year. It can progress to love. Love mostly starts out as infatuation, but infatuation doesn't always evolve into love Love is real, and if you take good care of it, it will last a lifetime. And love can grow. Infatuation is unreal. Infatuation is the Call of the Wild, Love is the call of the Soul. In one situation, there is reassurance and comfort, in the other, relentless doubt and insecurity. Infatuation is afraid to examine itself because there are things it may not want to find,questions it might not want answered. Love investigates itself thoroughly and gets a buzz in the process. This is because Love, when it's the genuine article, cannot exist outside of the present moment. Love isn't the promise of a future either. It can only exist in the NOW. Promises of forever are great, but they can only happen one NOW at a time. Infatuation says things like, "let's run away and get married quick, I can't risk losing you.” Fear always lives in the past or future. Ever notice that? A "loving moment” should be redundant, so take it to the Department of Redundancy. Stop chasing love, turnaround, and let it catch you. I think the ideal relationship is a friendship that doesn't have to be anything more than that, but just so happens to be. That's not settling, that's the real deal. There is no "need” in love, no requirement. You can't need something you already have. If you say "I love you,” then that's a statement that stands alone, and can't be followed up with "but I require this, this, and this...” You'd have to look that one up in the contradictionary. You can always be with the one you love, because love is always just being - there is no requirement. Love is. And that's all. We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love!!
Some things to think about:
Just because you feel love doesn't mean the other person does!
People are capable of falling in and out of love so if your "true love" turns out to be abusive or makes you cry more than smile, end it and find a healthy person to love.
Remember there are levels of love, and true love is a "CHOICE" and just because someone says they love you doesn't mean they love you. Their actions will tell.
"Love is not a feeling, it's an ability."
Love can take over your whole life if you are not careful. Let it not take you over, but become a part of who you are.
When you think about the person you love it should make you want to be a better person, for them.
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I would tell you my thoughts on this one, but I am certain you already know what I am thinking. Hugz kiddo....
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