Ever just have those moments in life where you just feel like every waking moment you are doing for everyone else and never doing anything just for yourself??? Im a very unselfish person...and most of the time Im perfectly fine with that. I have many titles...as most of us moms do...mom, girlfriend, daughter,friend, sister, aunt, taxi driver, cheerleader, nurse, maid...ect. Im counted on to fix the problems, help with the homework, cheer at the games, fix the boo-boos , make sure everything is done when and how its suppose to be done. Like I said on a normal basis I dont mind doing all these things..I actually just do them and dont think twice about it. But once in awhile I have days like today where I just feel like...hello??? Is anyone out there...does anyone see that Im tired?? That I've just been go..go..go, does anyone see that I feel like Im falling apart right now??? I think that everyone gets so used to me being the one they turn to, they lean on, that they forget that once in awhile I need to lean too!! Once in awhile I just dont feel like solving the problems, once in awhile I dont feel like washing those clothes, after all they will still be there tomorrow, and once in awhile I just dont feel like turning on the tv to hear about all the horrible things that are going on in this world. Once in awhile I just feel like running around saying "WHAT ABOUT ME??" Does that make me selfish? does it make me sound bad??? I dont know but right now I just dont really care about all of that...now tomorrow I will probably feel really bad for thinking this way let alone writing it for everyone to see!!!
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Dena, NO YOU are NOT a bad person. YOU are a very LOVING, CARING, and THOUGHTFUL person.
I would venture to guess that most of us Moms feel this same way, I know I do. I usually chalk it up to a fibro flair of something.
I've learned to 'listen' to my body and when I need a down day or a jammie day I do it!
AJ, my 5th grader every once in awhile will say, I think Mom needs a SPA DAY! How he knows what a spa day is, is beyond me!
But, take a day, or 2! Rest, read, watch a favorite movie, indulge in a favorite food. You will feel much better. Soak in a hot bath with candles. I know, you watch kiddos, kind of hard to do, but don't you dare feel guilty for feeling this way.
We all love you!!
Hugs,
Carrie
Dena, no, YOU are not wrong to feel this way. You are a very thoughtful, loving, and caring person. You are not selfish!
I would venture to guess that most of us Moms feel this way at some point. I know I do.
I have learned to 'listen' to my body. When I need a 'jammie' day, I take it!!! If we get burned out nothing works wells.
So, take a day, or 2, and sleep, read, watch a favorite movie or series, indulge in a favorite food, take a hot bath and relax.
Tomorrow is another day and all the laundry, dust, and clutter will still be there!
We love you,
Carrie
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You are definitely not selfish. Besides, if you don't take care of yourself, you won't be able to take care of those you love as well. I have to remind myself of that often!
And thanks for having faith in me! I'll take all I can get! ;o)
This certainly isn't selfish in my book! I think as moms we all get to feeling that way sometimes..super overwhelmed and just needing some "me" time...better than suffering burn out!! Funny part is, the world will still keep going if we say "stop" just for today.
NO NO NO...this is not selfish, we all feel like that, I expect Mother Theresa had moments of it even....it is natural, anyone with any feelings or emotion feels this way at times.
I feel like I know you well enough through your blog and comments, to say you are nothing but a loving giving person.
i hope you listen to your heart and take some time for you xxxx
You are NOT selfish. I'm sure you're not thanked as often as you should be too.
Being a Mom is one of the most, if not the most underappreciated job on the planet.
You're a really nice person Dena, and you shouldn't feel bad for not being able to be there for everyone all the time.
It's ok if it's about you sometimes!
Don't feel guilty for having this emotion kiddo. We all go through it at various times. I know I do. Sometimes all it takes is a simple thank you to make it all feel better. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you. Hugz
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NO WAY - you aren't selfish at all! You're human and you deserve some time for YOU, especially considering all you do for everyone else :)
Of course you're not a bad person. You're human and a mother who is pulled in about 1,356 directions. Of course you're going to reach a point where you just need some ME time. I reached that point a long time ago, and I no longer feel guilty about taking it. I just do. I know that if I don't, all hell will break loose sooner rather than later. :o)
you are not selfish...you sound like a wonderful person.......I have those same feelings many days...
You have a beautiful blog...Hope you will stop by and visit my new Christmas blog that I launched today.
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