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Monday, April 27, 2009

am I the crazy one?

So this week-end Devin went to a sleep over with about 5 other 10 year old boys....he was looking forward to it just like most kids do. It was for one of his friends birthday so we had picked out what Devin thought was the coolest nerf gun and right after school they were taking all the boys over to their house for the fun to begin!!!! I tend to be one of those moms that worry alot but I was feeling alright about this because Devin has gone to this friends house before so I didnt feel I had anything to worry about. We went and picked him up from the boys house about 10 the next morning. Devin didnt seem himself I thought oh he is probably tired as sleep overs never really include much sleep!!!! I asked Devin if he had a fun time and he said it was ok...so now Im thinking something is differently wrong!!! Once we got home he told me that one of the boys had a razor cell phone and had taken pictures of girls butts and was showing everyone. I thought to myself wow a 10 year old with razor cell phone...who does that and why???? Obviously this child is not mature enough to be using it the right way. I mean I got Devin a little tracphone only for when he is at his dad's house because his dad wont let him use his phone, and then he uses it if he walks home from school so he can be in touch with me during the walk, its the cheapest phone you can get its less then $10. Then Devin went on to tell me that most of the boys cussed the whole time...saying words like "shit" "damn" "fuck" even when the parents were around, I certainly do not allow my 10 year old to go around talking this way!!! This all made Devin feel uncomfortable and made me wonder once again what is going on with our kids now a days!! What happened to just being a kid, and why are parents ok with all of this. I sometimes wonder am I the only one that doesnt find this kind of behavior to be appropriate?? Am I suddenly in a universe that all this is ok??? Please someone tell me am I the one going crazy here????

6 comments:

Kathy B! said...

No, you are not alone and it's not okay! There sees to be a large group of parents that feels these are "just words." I'm not one of them!

~Tom~ said...

Life is a matter of perspective. You wrote this blog as a statement about the behavior of these boys. I am sure most will read it that way. However, I look at it from a different point of view. The story you tell is about your son being raised by a mom who taught him manners and respect. You said you could tell something was wrong. And he told you. The simple fact that he knows it is not proper and he was bothered by it, shows that you are on the right track as a parent Dena.

So, take a step back and look past your disgust of the behavior of his friends and be proud of your son and of yourself for teaching him morals and values.

Sally's World said...

OMG, i can't believe that these kids are allowed to talk like that, but I totally agree with Tom, the fact that he told you about it, is a testament to both you and him....

my kids come home telling me how some others speak and act and my eyes nearly fall out of my head...at times i even wish tehy were less open, but not for long, i just hope they are always open with me.

Rachel said...

That's scary when it happens at someone's house you think you know!

SO said...

I think that it is awesome that your son feels comfortable enough telling you that all of that happened. That is a big thing.

And it is sad that parents allow that type of language from young kids. And I don't understand the whole "kids need cell phones" thing. I love the fact that you got him a tracfone. That may be the way we go when our kids start driving. Our kids know that they can have a cell phone when they can buy it and pay for the bill themselves and not before then.

Maybe next time (if there is a next time) you could tell your son that if he feels uncomfortable that he could call you and you could come and get him.

Cheryl said...

Sooo many parents these days have little to no interest in what their kids are doing/saying....it's truly scary! You've done and are doing a great job raising all three of your boys...the fact that he told you all about what happened at the sleepover is awesome...it shows that he trusts and respects you.