T.G.I.F

Ever just have "ONE OF THOSE WEEKS" well I just had one and all I can say is
THANK GOD ITS FRIDAY!!!!!

Favorite 4 my Friday

I totally love peanut butter cups...so when some genius decided to mix it with ice cream....it quickly became my favorite

Does it get any better than Ben & Jerry's??? (sad thing is I haven't been able to find this flavor anymore....they say its still made but I can't find it around here)




So thank goodness they make this stuff.....it too is to die for!!!!

So thank you wise ones for coming up with the "fantabulous" idea of mixing these two things.....you have made at least one person VERY happy!!!!

I've come to realize..and my thoughts 4 thursday combined

My bloggin buddy Riley posted this on his blog and named me as the person most likely to repost this...and so you know what that means...I JUST HAD TO DO IT!!! and since it is also thoughts 4 thursday I decided to do what he did and combine them so here goes....

1. I’ve come to realize that my chest-size. . .is just right, not so big that they sag when I take off the bra...and yet not so small that I am asking myself what the hell am I even wearing a bra for???


2. I’ve come to realize that my job. . .is just right for me..I suffer from anxiety so it makes jobs limited for me. I used to work at a day care which was nice considering I love kids...now I babysit out of my home and make more money then I did at the day care....and I'm home to be with my 11 year old during the summer time...thats awesome!!


3. I’ve come to realize that when I’m driving. . .I get annoyed by so many of the other drivers out there!!!!

4. I’ve come to realize that I need. . .to learn how to relax more and not be so stressed out about the things I cant do anything about in life

5. I’ve come to realize that I have lost. . .faith in people and sometimes that makes me really sad inside...I think its important to have faith in people and because of the things Ive been thru in life I have lost that along the way

6. I’ve come to realize that I hate it when. . .someone lies to me, it truly destroys a part of me on the inside ...I wonder how could you lie to me???? The truth is always so much better no matter what!

7. I’ve come to realize that if I’m drunk. . .I tend to laugh alot...even over things that no one else finds funny they are just laughing at me!!!

8. I’ve come to realize that money...or the lack of it, does bring ALOT of stress to just about everyone I know!!

9. I’ve come to realize that certain people. . .will never change and I have to just accept that and move on with my life

10. I’ve come to realize that I’ll always. . .have more morals and values then alot of people I know

11. I’ve come to realize that my sibling(s). . .my brother and my little sister are my best friends we get along so great, I love them and miss them dearly...my other sister..is never going to change..therefor she is just merely just my sister...nothing more

12. I’ve come to realize that my mom…is thought about almost every day...I missed her so much since she died 10 1/2 years ago...she left way too early in life she was only 49!!

13. I’ve come to realize that my cell phone. . .is with me most of the time!

14. I’ve come to realize that when I woke up this morning. . .it was only Thursday, I so wanted it to be Friday!


15. I’ve come to realize that last night before I went to sleep. . .I was truly VERY tired!

16. I’ve come to realize that right now I am thinking. . .crap I haven't laid anything out for supper!

17. I’ve come to realize that my dad. . .reads this and Id better be nice about what I write..hehe



18. I’ve come to realize that when I get on Facebook. . .I dont get on it


19. I’ve come to realize that today. . .is going by really slooooooow

20. I’ve come to realize that tonight. . .is just another night...nothing special

21. I’ve come to realize that tomorrow. . .is FRIDAY....the last day of the week and the first day of the week-end yay what a great combo!!!!

22. I’ve come to realize that I really want to. . .win the lottery...enough to pay off my house and my bills and just live life for awhile without any struggles and without stressing over financial stuff..then I could move to Texas and be closer to my brother and sister!!

23. I’ve come to realize that the person mostly likely to repost this is. . .Tom once he gets back from his camping trip

24. I’ve come to realize that life. . .is not always easy....but everything we go thru is a learning experience....some things make us realize we never want to do that again...some things we learn from and in ways it helps us to grow into better people

25. I’ve come to realize that this weekend. . .Devin will be going to his dads, he doesnt like going there and I hate taking him there so these week-ends are always a bummer for us

26. I’ve realized the best music to listen to when I am upset. . is something soothing

27. I’ve come to realize that my friends. . .are very important to me

28. I’ve come to realize that this year. . .my older two boys turned 21 and 20 and it makes me feel REALLY old!!!!


29. I’ve come to realize that my exes. . .are the biggest mistakes I made in my life!!! But I got 3 awesome boys from them so it all worked the best for me in the end!!


30. I’ve come to realize that maybe I should. . .let my walls down some and learn to trust again

31. I’ve come to realize that I love. . .my three boys and Josh more than anything in this world

32. I’ve come to realize that I don’t understand. . .half of the crazy things going on in this world today!!!

33. I’ve come to realize my past. . . is just that, my past and I need to learn to let it go!

34. I’ve come to realize that parties. . .are so much more fun when you are a kid!!

35. I’ve come to realize that I’m totally terrified. . .of being locked in public bathrooms

36. I’ve come to realize that my life. . .feels like its a jumbled up mess..but thru it all Im thankful for my 3 awesome kids and the fact 2 of them are in college, the other is 11 and in the top of his class ..they love me and I love them so much!! I have a good guy in my life we have had our ups and downs but we have stayed by each others side and have tried hard to help one another and together learn to trust again....."Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away."

My hamburger has become too sexy!!!

I know when you read the title of this post you was thinking what the hell is she talking about now...right?????? Well Im talking about the fact that advertisers have been using sex to sell products for many years now..but it truly seems that some of them have taken things a bit too far. Now our fast food chains are trying to get into this whole sex sells theme and personally I find it ridiculous...and considering Im a mom and I can control what my 11 year old watches, however, I cannot control what commercial content is exposed to him. We've got Burger King who just got sexy by "blowing your mind"The top right-hand corner of the ad proclaims: "It just tastes better." and the fine-print on this choice Burger King ad reads as follows:
"Fill your desire for something long, juicy and flame-grilled with the NEW BK SUPER SEVEN INCHER. Yearn for more after you taste the mind-blowing burger that comes with a single beef patty, topped with American cheese, crispy onions and the A1 Thick and Hearty Steak Sauce."



I mean hell why stop there A1 steak sauce should make an ad advertising their 8-inch tall bottle as a phallic tower of manhood..I mean explosion of flavors...thick and hearty..it's all right there for them!!!

Oh and lets not forget the Kid's Meals ads that were out a couple months ago it was an ad targeted at children a Kid's meal for Sponge Bob Square Pants. It had the song Baby Got Back rewritten and depicted women shaking their supposedly box-like rear ends. This ad was clearly geared to children because it advertised their Sponge Bob kids meal. Women shaking their butts to pop music to advertise a meal that appeals to preschoolers and early elementary age children? What were they thinking...or were they thinking at all?

I like square butts and I cannot lie,
Squid and Sea Star can’t deny.
When a sponge walks in, four corners in his pants,
like he got phone book implants,
the crowd shouts, all the ladies stare.
Man those pants are square!
Swinging through the seaweed tangles
is a butt with sharp right angles.
Now, SpongeBob,
I wanna get with ya,
‘cause you’re making me richer.
Burger King wants me to seal the deal:
99 cents get a toy and a kids meal.


In the video that accompanies the lyric, women shake their booties while standing on a sponge:



The Burger King measures the width of a woman’s behind:


King measures the squareness of a woman’s behind:


Yep thats appropriate for these preschool kiddos that will be eating those kid meals!!!

We also have the Hardees ad talking about its "creamy balls" and "happy holes" for its biscuit holes campaign. And then the Hardees/Carl's Jr ads have "Hot Chicks Eating Burgers," Seems an entire industry is trying to push every bound of sexual innuendo in order to sell something as simple as a hamburger. Do you remember a couple years ago when Paris Hilton did an ad for them in which she was seductively washing a Bentley and chowed down on the restaurant's massive beefy burger?



The latest is an ad with a scantily clad lady eating a carl's jr burger she pretends to eat a ginormous pineapple burger while lying on a beach in a bikini, alternately resting the burger on her toned tummy. The tagline: "More than just a piece of meat." The ad sends exactly the opposite message of course.





Some use to say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach now I guess its through his genitals? What kind of message are fast food corporations sending to their target group "hungry young men"? What kind of message are they sending to young women? The sexualization and debasing of women through the inference that they are a piece of meat is disgusting. And how did young horny men become their target group?? I mean not that I frequent these places often but having kids I do go there now and then and Im sorry but I have always seen lots of FAMILIES in there , along with old people, so how is it that they are targeting the young MEN group like they are the only ones eating in these establishments???The youthful male that they seem to be trying to target is absurd....so are they saying that it is okay to try and sexually stimulate my 19 and 21 year old so they will run out and buy their burgers? I have a very impressionable 11 year old that seems to be more and more desensitized by the day. Making light of titillating young males in order to get them to buy food totally disregards that women are degraded and children are sexualized in the process. It doesn't surprise me that these companies are willing to do whatever it takes to make their product portray a "glamorous" appearance, sort of a, eat this burger, and get this girl kind of approach. The sad thing is, that young girls everywhere are hit in the face yet once again by this image of the "perfect body." This is an image, that many of them see as impossible to attain, and so they feel inadequate. NOW, they have to see this perfect body chewing on a greasy hamburger....so I'm sure they are wondering why they are eating rice cakes and carrots and still don't look like that. These images should include a disclaimer about the countless expenses, trainers, custom diet plans and air-brushing that produce these bodies. It's cruel what we've done to our girls, and the every-day woman for that matter. I hope their young, male demographic is as big as they say, If this type of advertising is what it takes to get someone to eat their burgers , then the product must be lacking on it's own merits. Isn't it amazing that cigarettes can no longer be advertised on the air, but these type of advertisements are permitted !!! It's a male word today and what a shame it is, Men are not the only people to watch TV..i am a woman that wouldn't mind sometimes seeing a man half dressed, but we all know this does not happen . It is always the woman that is nearly naked..it is disgusting that almost every commercial you see on TV anymore is a woman somehow being nasty in some way ... even in the diet ads on TV it is always a woman in a bikini, and the men always dressed why is that? Stop looking at the female gender as a piece of meat... and shame on the women who think this is great.. stop and think of what you our doing, and contributing to society !! Why does this seem to be so hard to accomplish ?? The proliferation of sex to sell ANYTHING has long been out of control. Sometimes one can't even tell what product is being sold....except sex. Do we as a society really wonder why today's youth is so sexually active at such young ages and committing sex acts that simply astonish! The advertisers are out of control in their quest to be over the top. Nothing is left to the imagination anymore. It's too much!! Put your clothes back on people. Advertisers.....get your minds out of your genitals and maybe actually THINK of an idea that would actually sell ummmmm.....what was that?.......Oh yeah.....THE PRODUCT!!

Question for you?!?!

If you could be an animal.....which would you be and why??

Toons 4 My Tuesday

How was your 4th???

Just a peek into our holiday week-end......

There was swimming in the pool

Lots of noise to be made shooting off firecrackers!!!

There was lots of grillin....and eatin...mmmmmmm

Some needed a quick nap before the fireworks started


Even grandpa was here!!


SOME of us got tired of mom taking pictures!!!


FINALLY it was time for the fireworks!!!




It was just how it should of been....all the kiddos home...grandpa here...
lots of food...lots of drinks....lots of fun!!!!


By the way we had soooooo much food to eat we forgot about the watermelon so if anyone wants some come on over and help yourself!!!!

Music 4 my Monday

Im going back into the 80's for my music pick for today!!

The Outfield: Your Love

HAPPY 4th of JULY

I won't be posting again until Monday so I want to wish all of you a very
Happy and safe 4th of July!!!!

Thought 4 my Thursday

While I was doing a search for an image on the Internet I ran across this and I couldn't help but have a million things run thru my head...so I just HAD to post it on my thought for Thursday post and ask you what are your thoughts when you see this???

*some of my thoughts....first of all I was looking for a image to use for my other post about holding my pee...how does this fall under that category...I have no idea....then I want to know why is the girl in the black bikini holding the girl in the green bikinis stomach???? And my next question is ...is that dog back there smelling the ass of another dog?????? Now I do think its important to feel comfortable with one's body...but honestly I'm no where close to the size of these women and I wouldn't be caught dead in a bikini...so I have to hand it to them I definitely think they have master the art of being totally comfortable with their bodies!!!!*

Am I the only one???

I have this stupid thing I do each and every night or I should say early morning hours while Im in bed....I hold my pee....thats right I wont get up and just go instead I wake up realize I have to go and simply roll over and go back to sleep. Which then makes it so when it is actually time for me to get up in the morning I have to pee so bad I sometimes feel like I can't get to the bathroom fast enough. Why do I do this...I have no idea!! Its not like I have a long ways to go to get to the potty nope its right around the corner...I dont even have to turn on any lights....theres enough light coming in the room I can find my way to the potty no problem. But for what ever insane reasons I instead decide its a good idea to just roll over and go back to sleep. This usually hits me about 3 in the morning and I usually am getting up at 6. So I dont know if Im just thinking I dont want to get up now 3 hours isnt that long to wait...but seriously folks according to my bladder each morning 3 hours is a VERY LONG TIME TO WAIT!!!! At my age I should of been able to break this silly habit...but for whatever insane reason Im still doing it...each and every night...so it leads me to the question...
does anyone else do this???? Or am I the only one?????

Question for You

You've just been cut off in traffic by an idiot on a cell phone...
what do you do as opposed to what you feel like doing?

What about me 4 Wednesday

Today is "What about me 4 my Wednesday" Im suppose to tell ya something about "me"........ Im a VERY shy person.....I suffer from major anxiety which is probably the reason I am so shy

Is it ALWAYS about YOU

Dont you just get tired of those people who no matter what is going on in everyone elses life things somehow always tend to be about them...they always have things better then everyone else...things much worse have happened to them....you can't even have a real conversation with this kind of person because somehow in some way it starts about what YOU are going thru and turns into what THEY are going thru. I sometimes sit and wonder why do these kind of people believe that everything is always about them???? Or maybe I am wrong and it really IS always about them???? Does anyone else go thru this????

Beyond the negativity

For years I pictured myself to be a victim of my traumatic life experiences. I spent so many years of my life feeling damaged and utterly broken. It caused me to not trust or believe in people at all. I often wondered how I could continue on in such emotional pain. I continued for years by putting my focus on being mom, concentrating more on them then I did myself. Thinking that the things I felt deep inside of me would one day just go away, or would be buried so deep beneath everything else they wouldn't really matter anymore. But thats not how it works. You need to take the time to deal with the traumatic things you have gone thru in life and dont let them destroy you but let them make you stronger.
I have spent so much of life hurting from the things Ive gone thru, feeling a deep sense of sadness while I walked around with a smile on my face pretending that everything was just fine. After years of abuse you learn how to do that really well.

In the last year I have tried concentrating on being able to better see the core of who I really am. A core that isn't marked by traumatic life experiences, but rather, a core that shines with talent, beauty, and a sensing for love and adventure.
When I stopped focusing on the beauty that is my inner core, I was denying myself the right to grow and to blossom. I started spending all of my time focusing on the negative things I think about myself; and then acted surprised when those things begin to grow. After awhile, all I could see when I look at myself in the mirror,was the negative , broken person that I had convinced myself I was. Then one day I thought what if I focused my attention towards, the things about me that will grow. The good about myself. I have the ability to convince myself of anything. Our mind is a very powerful tool!!!

It is now my challenge to myself, to see beyond the negativity and look towards my true inner self. I mean I've always known Im a good person...have a good heart and soul and will do almost anything for anyone. I always want to help the underdog, and always have words of encouragement for everyone around me. I've always been every ones shoulder to cry on and helping hand to count on, Im the one everyone turns to when they need some advise. While it goes unnoticed that Im hurting inside, that I bear a sadness so deep inside of me from the experiences in life I have gone thru that I sometimes feel like all my happiness has been sucked away. So its time I put a little focus on me now, feed my core with beautiful thoughts and healthy experiences, and before I know it, viewing myself in a negative and broken manner will be a thing of the past, for my TRUE inner self will shine so bright that I won't be able to help it but to face each and every day with a much more positive outlook. And I will realize that all that negative that has happened in my life truly did only make me stronger!!!

Music 4 My Monday

Today Im going to pick more than one music video ....its going to be a few of my favorite songs from Michael Jackson...of course I like all the ones that everyone else likes... "Thriller", "Beat It", "Billie Jean"...
but these are some of my favorites...ENJOY!!!

Michael Jackson - New Music - More Music Videos

Too funny not to share

I know you are probably like me and getting tired of hearing about this...although it has calmed down alot lately but I got this in an email and thought it was funny so I had to share it with all of you!!!

I got an award!!!

Alicia over at Boylerpf presented this blog award to me, thank you Alicia!! She has a blog full of wisdom and great stories as well as an awesome etsy shop that sells vintage jewelry. Be sure you check it out!
The rules of the award are to give 7 facts about myself and pass this on to 7 other lucky winners. Ready? Here we go:


1) Diet coke is my addiction...but I dont drink it out of the can...I love it poured over crushed ice...once in awhile if we are out and about and have to grab a quick drink on the go I will drink it out of the bottle but I just dont want to touch my lips to the rim of that can!!! I feel like I dont know what all has been on that can before it made its way into my hands!!

2)Im the oldest of four kids although my sister that is 4 years younger then me most think she looks older and I secretly kind of like that!!! Ok honestly I REALLY LIKE THAT!!! I just dont tell her that!!!

3)I tend to feel it is my responsibilty to fix everything for everyone...which leads me to worrying way too much...which then leads to me stressing waaaay to much....everyone tells me to relax, which in a way pisses me off cuz if I knew how to do that I so would of been doing it by now!!!

4) I tend to be everyones shoulder to lean on but feel that most of the time when I need a shoulder to lean on its no where to be found

5) I've spent the majority of my life worrying about my weight...even though Im heavier then Ive ever been(other then when I was pregnant) Im going thru a phase of I dont care...this is me and if you dont like it then dont look at it....kind of feel like its time I accept me the way I am!!

6) Last night when I heard about Farrah Fawcett and Michael Jackson both dying I honestly got a little teary. I cant stand it when people die..it truly makes me so sad inside.

7) Im a mom of three boys, and nothing and I mean nothing in this life means more to me then that!!!!

Im suppose to pass this on to 7 people but I always have such a hard time picking some and not picking others and honestly Id love to hear more about each one of you. So I invite each and every one of you to take this award and tell me more about YOU!!

Favorite 4 my Friday

My favorite for today is this color of shirt (coral)....when its worn in the summer time it makes your tan just "pop"...and well since I spend the rest of the year looking sooooo white...I kind of like anything that makes the little bit of color I do get in the summer time look even better......oh and I also like it when my fingernail polish matches so perfectly with my shirt!!!
I know Im weird like that!!

Ripped right off !!!!

what is that you might be asking....well I will tell you...I went out to water the flowers in the back yard as the back yard faces south and its gets sun pretty much all day long...so the potted flowers especially end up needing watering twice a day....as I was pulling the hose thru the fence "this thing" you see in the picture got caught in the fence and broke right off!!!! OOOOUUUCCCCHHHH

It used to go right here....thats right its my nail......and no they aren't fake the are the real deal..and it just bent back and snapped off in a matter of 2 seconds!!!!

And now I am soooooo sad...ok actually MAD....because do you know how long it is going to take to get that nail grown back out to match the others?????? Ok if you are a guy reading this you probably dont and probably dont really care so much...probably thinking oh Dena its only a finger nail get over it...yeah well remember that next time you want your back scratched!!! Ok off I go to sulk in my misery!!!

Thought 4 my Thursday

The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've every had.

What about me 4 Wednesday

Today Im suppose to post something about myself.....well all I can think about is how hot I am...its been in the upper 90's and the humidity has been hellish and well I just feel like every time I step outside this blanket gets put over my face and makes it so I cant breath!!! So while Ive got a moment Im going to go soak my hot self in the pool........yep thats all you are going to get about me today!!!!

Peanut butter jelly time

Kody didnt have to work today so he drove home to see me!!! Yay me!!!! He asked if I have ever had a grilled peanut butter and jelly sandwich. Of course I had not soooo he decided it was time I had one.

~Kody cookin~


And this is the final result...a tasty grilled pb & j....if you have never tried it then you need to...its a crazy little twist on the normal pb&j

Question for you?!?!

If you were to name the one possession that means the most to you...
what would it be?

Happy Birthday Mom

~Diana Lynn Perkins~
Born: June 23, 1949
Died: January 18, 1999
Missed so much by her children and grandchildren
She fought cancer for 5 1/2 years before it took her life

(sorry the pics aren't better..scanner doesnt work so I had to take a picture with my cell of the pictures and send them to computer so they didnt turn out very clear)

Today she would be 60.....I can't help but to wonder what would she look like at 60 years old.....many tell me all the time how much I look like her...so I can't help but wonder what she would look like now....maybe to get a glimpse of what I have to look forward to in about 20 years.....but mostly because after 10 1/2 years of not seeing her or hearing her voice or feeling her touch...or even smelling her smell I just can't help but wonder what would it be like now. Even though you have been in heaven for 10 1/2 years now mom I wish you a Happy Birthday....
I love you and I miss you with all of my heart!!!

God Saw You

God saw you getting tired,
When a cure was not to be.
So He wrapped his arms around you,
and whispered, "Come to me".
You didn't deserve what you went through,
So He gave you rest.
God's garden must be beautiful,
He only takes the best
And when I saw you sleeping,
So peaceful and free from pain
I could not wish you back
To suffer that again !

A new beginning

Ive decided it was time for me to have a new beginning....I've lived thru some really rough things in my 41 years....Ive been abused physically, emotionally, mentally, and sexually all by people that I was suppose to believe in and trust...count on to be there for me and with me. It started out when I was a child and followed me thru my adult hood. Ive tried to bury it and pretend that it wasnt there but the hurt one carries when they have gone thru so much tends to poke its ugly head out alot..and causes you to start living a life where you dont trust in anyone...you feel that no one is actually able to be honest or truthful....Im a mom of 3 boys, and Ive done everything in my power to raise my boys to be good honest..loving caring men..as you know from my post...I have 2 in college (19 and 21) and one still at home (11) and I am so very proud of them and I know without a doubt that regardless of what Ive been thru in life I have been an excellent mom!!! But inside of me I have still held on to all the hurt Ive gone thru in this life. Lately Ive been thinking what if I had the ability to bounce back from whatever hardship has come my way? What if I had the ability to look at every misfortune, as an opportunity to grow into a stronger, more resilient human being? Have you ever wondered why it is that some people can bounce back so quickly from a negative life experience, while others dwell upon the negative experience for years to come? It's called the ability to be resilient.
Resiliency is defined as the following:
1. Springing back; rebounding.
2. Returning to the original form or position after being bent, compressed, or stretched.
3. Recovering readily from illness, depression, adversity, or the like; buoyant.

After years of living life trying to just find some sort of happiness out there. I have felt that I have always given so much of myself to others only to be let down and crushed in so many ways by those people. I have done lots of thinking and I have decided that each and every person does have the ability to live a resilient life. You can be positive, proactive, healthy, happy and live a life with positive meaning, it is now my mission to learn as much as I can about how to live my life to the fullest and in the most resilient manner possible. Im only given one life...and its going to be way too short to sit around and worry about the negative that others want to try to inflict upon me. They can only hurt me if I allow them to hurt me...and guess what Im done allowing that to happen....this is my life and Im ready to start living it!!!!!